I am the eldest sibling and therefore supposedly the ‘sensible’ one. Yeah, and whoever made up that myth was clearly an only child! When my middle sister went to university, I wrote her a long letter explaining that she would encounter several types of men – most of which came with a health warning. I know…there are exceptions and she married one, but he didn’t go to uni, so bang goes that theory!
It wasn’t so much that I was trying to warn her off, more that with prior knowledge she would be better equipped to identify and neutralise nefarious types. A sensible approach. Now, I know loads of really lovely men – stand up guys, fantastic friends, great fathers, husbands and generally good boyfriend material. But like I said, there are exceptions… After comparing notes with a group of girlfriends, I realise that even when you are a grown up, you may still need the sensible girl’s guide to a$$holes, so here it is, just in case…
Scenario #1. If… after a first date, they do not call, it is not because they are 17th century time-travellers who do not understand 21st century technology. And no, they have not been in an accident and lost all memory of your phone number! They do not call, because they are a$$holes…and you…well, you are another notch on their bedpost.
Scenario #2. If… they say ‘I’d like to be in a relationship, but it’s complicated’…that is your cue to exit the building. Complicated usually means they are a) …married b) ….in rehab or c) …have more high-maintenance baggage than a Louis Vuitton store! They are to be avoided…
Scenario #3. If…they text you incessantly at odd hours of the night but at no other time…it is not ‘grand passion’ – it is the drunken trawling of their Blackberry (aka the modern version of the little black book) and the arrogant certainty that you will be so desperate to have sex with them (well, you are single after all), that you will find this endearing. It is not.
Scenario #4. If…they request spanking on the first night you actually do abandon sense and sleep with them, or if they profess a love for duct tape…(?) fishing…(??) line or pole dancing…(???) Do you really have to ask? They are deviant psychopaths and you should dial 999 immediately!
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Where was this advice when I met the ex ~ I so could have avoided the drama, but on the other hand wouldn't have T in my life ~ hopefully your advice will be of help to those out there roaming the streets.