Image: Chiromancer 2018
It’s been a while since I packed passport, arranged a visa and hot-footed it somewhere else for work. This week took me to New York for a new assignment. In my previous, pre-stepmom life, this would have been an ordinary trip. I travelled a lot. For work. For pleasure. I used to do a lot of other things…a lot. Now that I’m married to the Belgian – and stepmom to his boys – this trip adopted new significance.
Being alone in NYC as a kick-ass consultant reminded me of my days when I really was kick-ass, no-kids. No husband. Fun. Me. Just me. Me…alone. This time, being alone in New York also reminded me that I have some boys at home who might be missing me. Turns out they did…even Watson, our cat was happy to see me…But, it also reminded me that I’m good at what I do, that in my professional life, I am respected, valued and rewarded as…me! Sometimes this is hard to know when your role is being a stepmom and wife to boys who are from a different culture. Sometimes a different planet…
Change – which I do for a living – is not rocket science , but somehow, having to change my life from careerista singleton to married stepmom was harder than I expected. Not so much science as a rocket up my butt! Ouch! Much harder! Now don’t get me wrong, I love the Belgian and I would not swap my current life for the world, but it’s nice to be myself – just me,myself, I – for a change. For a change…being a working woman alone in New York meant I could order juice for breakfast, spend hours blowdrying my hair, explore the city after hours and catch up on some much needed sleep.
Sometimes you have to go back, to see how far you have journeyed…
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